Goddess in a Teapot

I love to think that women throughout time have left the women of our time clues about how to feel that our spirits are powerful, passed down to us little treasures learned over millennia just waiting to be excavated. Sometimes we look to the stories and artifacts about how powerful women have lived and still live; sometimes we can also look to what women have been forbidden to do. Our culture is peppered with little taboos, mostly that I remember from childhood, but some that are still common. As I consider these taboos, especially those concerned with dress, in relation to what I know about women spiritual leaders, I can see how each can be seen as a way to make women less powerful and how breaking these little taboos can be an avenue to feeling, looking, and being our strong, creative, confident selves.

Certain colors were never or rarely worn when I was younger, in particular, bright red, except as an accent, and black and white except for funerals, weddings, graduations, and other formal occasions. The association of red with “immoral” women was well-established for years and years. Remember the scene from “Gone with the Wind” where Scarlett finally gives up all pretense of respectability by going to a party wearing a red dress? Red, white and black are, of course, colors associated with goddesses all over the world. Fortunately and perhaps not coincidentally, red is now considered to be a “power color” and one that all job applicants should wear somewhere and black and white also have a power of their own as they are more commonly worn.

Clothing taboos have always divided women by class, making it possible to know exactly what strata of society a woman was from by looking at her clothing. Rich women from more aristocratic classes not only had better clothing, but also clothing for a wide variety of formal and informal events. Of course, being wealthy has not meant that women were more personally powerful, but by having women dress differently, it certainly helped keep them from seeing how they as a group lacked power and doing something about it. Dressing outside your assigned class has been taboo (“who does she think she is?”), as is mixing pieces of clothing from different class styles. How many times have you see any woman wear khakis and a silk jacket with pearls to a business meeting? When I was a teen, the owner of a consignment once gave me the fashion advice to wear rhinestone pins with my plain flannel workshirts. At the time I thought that was trendy, but maybe it is a statement about women’s unity as well.

Let’s talk hair. Traditionally, long, unbound hair has been considered to be powerful in itself. Medusa comes to mind. Young women were allowed to have such hair, but as soon as women began to come into their power as they grew up, taboos required binding it. Even now older women are supposed to cut off their long hair altogether and certainly never leave it long and loose. Gray hair, which could be considered to be a sign of wisdom, must be colored and covered up. Makes you want to keep your natural gray and let it grow long, just to see what happens, doesn’t it?

What about jewelry? We can see from ancient tombs of powerful women that those folks liked jewelry and had a lot of it. They seemed to wear tons of the stuff all at the same time. No one who studies the qualities of various metals and gemstones will be surprised that jewelry, especially beadwork, is supposed to carry a kind of spiritual power in itself. Too bad that real “ladies” are supposed to wear a piece or two only, unless they are royalty or really rich, that should match. And why is it that we aren’t supposed to wear two different kinds of metals or gemstones at the same time? Could it be that if we wear as much jewelry as we like we might just feel a power we are not meant to?

Ignoring society’s little taboos is certainly a statement of personal freedom, but I also wonder if it may also be a bit more. When something is repressed for centuries, it almost seems to gather energy over the centuries, just waiting for women to rediscover it. Breaking a clothing taboo feels fresh and new, a step into the future, simply because I have rarely dressed that way before. When I wear red, I not only enjoy the color itself, but it seems to hold the vibrant energy that I also sense in mixing up styles, wild hair, far too much jewelry and other broken taboos.

Maybe clothing taboos aren’t the only ones that are worth breaking. If we broaden our sights and think of other things that are considered not quite right for no real reason, perhaps we will find other avenues to power. One post that many readers seemed to feel a connection to is about being a hermit. Our society praises and encourages extroverts and discourages those who are more thoughtful and solitary. It isn’t hard to see why – if you think too much you may begin to think for yourself. Being by yourself, meditating and contemplating yourself and life is essential to the kind of self-knowledge that leads to inner illumination.

People who enjoy the night rather than daytime, who prowl around in the dark, are also considered not quite reputable. Now, let’s see, what is out at night that isn’t in the daytime? Oh, that’s right, the moon, that potent symbol of women’s spiritual power in the west. If we go and bathe in her mysterious, enlightening light, what mischief might we get into?

Can it really be this simple? Can we really uncover reservoirs of our own power just by doing those things we aren’t supposed to? Probably not. But they can help us recognize the hundreds of ways that women’s power is taken away, bit by bit. As we can see by how quickly red has been embraced as a power color, releasing the force of a taboo can be very freeing. Give it a try. Next I’ll be wearing white shoes after Labor Day…

I’ve been very kindly invited to be part of a synchroblog that is blogging this month on the topic of duality.  Other participants are listed at the bottom.  The entries I have read are phenomenal and I encourage you to read them.  These are my thoughts on how the way we look at the world – whether too much in terms of  such traditional dualities as good versus evil or perhaps in a way that does not recognize the value of opposites — affects our ability to respond to everyday situations in an effective and positive way.  Most people see duality and other such models as descriptions of the universe that are true or not, unchangeable and outside of our control. This blog is all about seeing the spirituality in everyday life, the practical side of things, especially as it relates to ordinary women’s lives.  I won’t be talking about extreme events like genocides or hate crimes — though these are unfortunately too much a part of life for too many people — but the kinds of situations that arise in most people’s everyday lives.  So, let’s change our way of thinking, be our powerful selves, and choose how we want to see the world at any particular time.

I would like to give a gift to each reader of this blog post.  It isn’t an actual gift that you can hold in your hands, but rather one to keep in your imagination until you need it.  It is a kaleidoscope.  Turn the wheel and you can move from seeing any situation from a traditional dualistic point of view, especially one where everything can be categorized using such judgmental labels as good or evil, to a perspective that values everyone and everyday life as sacred and creative in its own way. Turn it the other way and the opposites in life come into clearer focus.

In my experience, almost nothing is as destructive in everyday situations than for people to take morally dictated, absolute stances.  “That act is sinful.”  “What you said is unforgivable.” “Making that choice is immoral.”  These may not be the words used, but the meaning is the same, and it is not just one group or those with a particular viewpoint who practice this.  Some of the people I have heard voice such stances would be called conservative fundamentalists, others would consider themselves to be liberal and free-thinking.  Dividing the world into two – good versus bad or evil, worthy versus unworthy, sinful and holy, enlightened or ignorant – is a way of looking at the world, not a particular philosophy of life. And please let me reiterate again that there are some extreme actions that deserve labels like “evil” — but I’m talking about the things that happen in everyday life that may rightly or wrongly cause irritation or disagreement, but not much more. 

I doubt I need to express what happens when people think this way unnecessarily – positions get entrenched, relationships get severed, people become ostracized, tiny misunderstandings become lifelong feuds.  I have known parents who have not spoken to adult children for decades because of a fight no one can even remember anymore. I’ve seen young teenagers tossed out onto the street for choosing the wrong boyfriend or girlfriend even though they will likely be onto someone else within a couple of weeks.  I’ve heard a mother say that her daughter deserved to be killed if she attended a protest rally she disagreed with.

Unfortunately, in our culture, taking these stances is often considered to be a sign of moral strength.  The more situations you can find to take an absolute stance on, the more righteous you must be.  The more unwavering you are in your feeling of superiority over whomever you consider to be the wrongdoer, the better human being you are.  I know I do it everyday. Maybe you do it, too. 

Let’s put this kind of thinking away for a moment and turn the kaleidoscope so that we look at situations through the lens of valuing everyone’s sacredness and creative uniqueness.

First of all, overdone moral indignation fades right away when everyone is considered to be first and foremost sacred and unique. You can’t put someone into a box when their inherent value as a human being far overshadows any label on that box.  Your family member or friend becomes a wonderful, fascinating human being who may disagree with you or say something she or he shouldn’t have, but who is not an alien being who is evil or immoral. 

When we stop considering everyday actions to be part of great battles such as those over good and evil or morality and immorality, we see that most things that happen are just one of many interactions or events that we will encounter every day.  Most times people are just being their imperfect selves or doing the best that they can rather than aligning themselves with heaven or the forces of evil. If we haven’t placed an action or a person in a context that requires an extreme response but just reacted to the situation itself, we can then just let it go or perhaps even appreciate the courage of the action, even if we don’t agree with it.  Often, this will then let in compassion and understanding, even improve the relationship.  Usually an argument is just an argument, a child’s romantic partner is just another person, and a protest is just a legitimate expression of freedom of speech. 

When we look at life as a creative journey, we can view most situations as a positive stop forward because of the lessons learned even if they involve behavior we may not like.  We can forgive if that is the appropriate response.  More importantly, we can look at our own emotional reactions and consider what they say about our own attitudes that may need to be changed.  Maybe the person who started the family argument is right.  Maybe objecting to an adult child’s romantic partner tells us that we need to see people in a less stereotypical way. Maybe seeing our child on the evening news should prod us to look at our own views.

These are just a few of the ways that removing the perspective of dualism can help resolve many everyday situations.

But, sometimes duality also has its place.  Many aspects of our world do seem to be opposites – male and female, north and south, hot and cold, and more.  Without these dualities, we would not exist and our world would be monotonous and stagnant.  Imagine a world of only day, or winter, or only one gender.  Duality is Divinity’s way of stirring things up and bringing a little energy to the world.

When you find yourself becoming very, very comfortable, perhaps it is time to turn the kaleidoscope the other way and invite in some opposites.  It is so easy to surround ourselves with people who are just like us and place ourselves in situations in which we know just what to do because we’ve done it a million times before.  But, when I do that, my life quickly takes on a lethargy – I am bored, nothing is interesting, the things I create are lifeless and routine.  When I invite something into my life that is an opposite of what I am comfortable with, my life becomes intriguing again – when I spend time with people who don’t agree with me, when I buy clothes in a color that I would not normally wear, when I write characters into my stories who I don’t understand well enough to predict what they will do.  One story I love to tell is when I was part of a council of a women’s spirituality organization and we met with a businessperson.  The businessperson lamented that she hadn’t known that she was supposed to wear purple.  We looked around and – yep – every single one of us was wearing something purple.

I know of almost nothing that is as magical as simply looking at a situation differently, whether less or more dualistically. Sometimes an answer to a problem will become immediately clear or a creation will get some instant pizzazz.  Most often, though, the experience of simply going outside the ideas we’ve always held makes us into a person who is wiser and who can think more freely and innovatively.  Once you use your kaleidoscope a couple of times you will no longer need it, you will be able to zero in and find the right point of view all by yourself.

For more points of view, visit these blogsites that are participating in the Duality Synchroblog.

Between Old and New Moons
Jewish Myth, Magic and Mysticism
Aquila Ka Hecate
Full Circle News
Mythphile
Frontiers of Wonder
Women and Spirituality
Paleothea
Quaker Pagan Reflections
Pitch 313
Executive Pagan
Druid’s Apprentice
Druid Journal
Dance of the Elements
Stone Circle
Manzanita, Redwoods and Laurel
When Isis Rises
Religion Think
Dreambuilders

My novel, The Temple of the Subway Goddess, was to be published next year.  The novel is about the quest to find our way to the essence that connects us to our deepest selves and others in our families, communities, and throughout time and space.  This journey is explored through the coming together of a modern urban woman and an ancient refugee priestess from a long-disappeared goddess temple.  As they meld their two worlds, they remake themselves and their loved ones and vision a new way of being.

However, life doesn’t always go according to plan and the publisher has ceased to exist. Since my real goal for publishing it was simply to create something that people would enjoy and maybe even find a bit inspiring, I am now offering it as a free download.  In the future, I hope to be able to make it into a real book for those who like to have something to hold in their hands, but for now, you may read it on your computer or print it out, whichever you choose.

Because not everyone has a fast connection, I have divided it into three parts.  So, here it is — my gift to you!

 Part 1 Part 2   Part 3

Cover  photo, “Graffitti Goddess,” by Kate Mereand under a Creative Commons Attribution license, details at http://flickr.com/photos/61400443@N00 and http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

This past week I traveled back to New York City, where I had lived in my 20s, for the first time since I left.  While I was there, I visited the Museum of Natural History, where I had first experienced a worldview that included women as sacred.  Back in the 80s, Diane Wolkstein had brought her performance of the Inanna story from ancient Sumer there.  I didn’t know it then, but that may be the closest I will ever come to experiencing an ancient religious rite involving a female deity.  Thousands of years ago, the celebrations and ceremonies frequently included re-enactments of stories about goddesses like Inanna. 

When I unpacked after I returned home, I took my jewelry out of a little silk bag and put back into it a mirror that had been sent to me by my friend Marione.  I had written a story in which one of the characters shows another her reflection in a mirror as part of a ritual and Marione sent me that gift in response.  After I wrote the story, I found out that this is indeed one of those spiritual acts that have been done by priestesses for millennia all over world. Once again, a modern woman had enriched my life by acting as a priestess.

What if we were all to take it upon ourselves as a sacred duty to act as priestesses for each other?  We live in a world in which women do not see themselves as worthy and are treated as soulless objects by others, leaving us subject to violence, abuse, and exploitation with horrendous results for women and all of society. To me, as I study the functions that priestesses held in ancient times and witness what seems to be lacking in our world, a priestess is anyone who reflects back to others her own sacredness and who heals.  When we forget that we are sacred and others are also, we open the door to violence, abuse, and exploitation.  When we heal, we make ourselves and other whole and bring ourselves and others back into the web of all being.

Everyone has her own way of being a priestess, but here are the ways that I have thought of to bring this essential function to our everyday lives:

Make every job that of being a priestess.  One common thread among the women I know who I would consider “priestessly” is that they view their jobs – whether as a checker at Walmart, a teacher, a nurse, an administrator, or a stay-at-home mom – as a means to show others that they are sacred.  They do whatever they do in a way that responds to each person they encounter as unique, important, and worthy.  With their family and friends, they encourage dreams, listen to ideas and opinions, mend broken self-respect.  They provide opportunities for others to find the sacred in themselves by letting them take chances, by allowing the other person to take care of the priestess as well as the other way around, by listening with genuine interest as people talk about their lives and burdens.

Our lives are the stuff of the sacred.  What happens to us everyday is just as valuable, more really, for wisdom and life lessons, as any ancient story.  Be a priestess by telling your stories, expressing your thoughts, giving others the benefit of what you have been through.  Your life, both the good and the bad, is a gift to you from the universe, and priestesses share what they have been given. 

Create beauty and celebrate the joy in life.  Music, dance, poetry, magnificent architecture and paintings have always been part of our spiritual experience whether in temples or churches or in rituals.  Something about beauty makes us into spiritual beings. So often our creative work is put on the back burner for what we may think of as more important things, like making a salary or fulfilling social obligations.  As a priestess, I will try to make creative endeavors a priority, maybe even blogging more often…

Finally, priestesses of old would often dress, speak, and behave like the goddesses who they celebrated.  To be a priestess, we must reflect whatever reflects the best within us, whatever that may be.  For many women, the most important aspect of this is expressing compassion for all those who come across their path.  They “hear the cries of the world,” as do so many goddesses and other female divine beings.  Maybe for me it is storytelling or making visions of the future.  Maybe today it will be one thing and tomorrow another.

Being a priestess everyday most likely won’t change much about what you do, but maybe it will change the way you perceive yourself and your role in it.  Maybe it will help you get through a tedious day at work, or re-evaluate what you see as important, or remind you in a new way that you are sacred and worthy of being treated as well as the highest spiritual leader. The Delphic oracle, the priestesses who dreamed healing visions at the Hypogeum, the women who over thousands of years have led their communities as spiritual leaders, they are all women just like we are, and, no matter who we are, we can be like them, too, everyday.  

Max Dashu is one of women’s history’s unsung heroes and someone every woman, and man actually, should know about.  For almost 40 years, Max has collected thousands of images that document the history of women and their achievements that rarely makes it into history books.  She has created 100 slide presentations that show powerful women as shamans, civic leaders, priestesses, rebels, artists, and so much more.  And these aren’t just extraordinary women, but also everyday women following in the footsteps of their mothers and grandmothers as their community’s healers, spiritual prophets, creators, lawgivers, and leaders in every way.  Other of her programs show how women and men all over the world and throughout time have worshipped the Divine in the form of a woman.   Finally, her work demonstrates how sexism, racism, and other injustices have robbed us of an important part of our legacy as human beings.  

Max’s programs are unique, not only because much of the information is not available elsewhere, but also because of her courage and determination in following the story wherever it leads her in time and place.  She shows that we, as women and people, have so much more in common with our ancestors and women on other continents than we knew.  Iconography, practices, ideas, and stories flow from one culture and time to another in her programs, binding us together with women from the most ancient past and distant places.

As if this were not enough, Max is also an artist whose work breathes life into the history through her own vision.  Her paintings include goddesses, spiritual leaders, spiritual concepts and more.  They are vibrant and beautiful and powerful.

Now, even if you aren’t able to go to one of her presentations, you can see one of her most popular programs on DVD.  “Woman’s Power in Global Perspective” is an 86-minute rendering on film of her slideshow that starts with the monuments of female dieties, ancestors, and other beings that ancient people raised all over the world; continues with both notable and everyday women who have been shamans and other spiritual leaders, warriors, queens, and liberators, healers, artists, musicians and poets, scholars and philosophers, athletes, and more; and ends with activists who have furthered and continue to promote a better future for us all.  You can see clips from the video, read the transcript, find a study guide, and order the DVD from Max’s Suppressed History Archives .  There you may also read articles she has written, find more about her other programs, and more.  You can see and learn more about her art here.  You’ll discover things about your heritage as a woman that you never knew. 

Among the Grail legends is the story of the Fisher King.  The Fisher King lives in the Grail Castle and has been wounded in the “thigh” (my guess is that this is a euphemism – move that wound over a few inches…) and, as a result, his kingdom is a wasteland, barren and full of sorrow.  Only when someone comes and asks “Who does the Grail serve?” will the King be healed and the land restored to abundance.  This story is said to express not just one man’s wound, but a cosmic male wound that leads to despair and global destruction. 

When we consider all that the location of the wound means – regeneration of life, feeling, separation from the Creator and so much more – we see how it is, indeed, representative of the wound that all men suffer when they are told not to cry and not to feel, when we give them toy guns and teach them to make war instead of dolls to love and nurture.  It is clear how this wound does lead to despair and global destruction. 

But, if that is the male cosmic wound, what is the cosmic wound for women?  Where are the female versions of the Fisher King in folklore and literature?

The story of The Handless Maiden comes immediately to mind and has been paired with the Fisher King by others.  In a version of this story beautifully retold by Clara Pinkola Estes’ Women Who Run with the Wolves, a young woman is sold to the devil by her father.  However, when the devil comes to collect her, he cannot get her because she has purified herself and stands in a chalk circle she has drawn.  Even when she does not bathe so she may become impure, her tears run onto her hands, purifying her and she is still out of the devil’s reach. The devil insists that the father cut off her hands so that her tears will not run onto her hands and purify her.  The father does as he is told but the devil is still rebuffed.  When the defeated devil leaves, the father offers the handless maiden a home, but she, instead, walks off into the woods where she eventually meets a king who marries her and after a number of adventures, her hands grow back and they live happily ever after.

Many, many analyses of this story exist by people with more expertise than I have and some relate it to a cosmic wound.  Like all meaningful stories, it has many levels and many possible interpretations and these interpretations are valid.  However, I have another interpretation.  As mysterious and meaningful as this story is, it does not feel to me that being handless is the female cosmic wound from which all other wounds come.  It does seem like another, female, version of the Fisher King, in the sense that hands are the way we create and feel.  Losing one’s hands is certainly a grievous injury and women do suffer from being severed from their creativity forces and emotions. But, to me, that is not the deepest wound I feel.  Women have found ways to be creative and regenerate life, and are not considered to be unfeminine if they express caring and compassion.  Also, the handless maiden’s regrowth of her hands is almost incidental to the story.  It happens after she has already found happiness.

To me, the cosmic female wound goes beyond this.  It seems so profound that it is unnamed and cannot be visualized as a metaphor.  When women became wounded, the world did not just become a place of barrenness and despair, but so out of alignment with the paradise it was meant to be that the wound became almost unknowable.

While The Handless Maiden’s loss of her hands may not be the cosmic wound in my interpretation, I think the story does hold the key.  The maiden’s fortunes begin to turn around when she walks away from her father.  Until this point, she has passively accepted all that others have done to her.  She has allowed herself to be sold and to have her hands cut off.  She rejects her father’s offer of a home and walks away into the woods.  It is at that point that her healing begins as she makes her own fortune.  She is free.

To me, the cosmic woman’s wound is the loss of freedom: freedom to be who we are, freedom to do what we wish, freedom to live where and as we wish, freedom to marry or not and whom to marry, freedom to bear children or not, freedom to earn our living as we wish, freedom to dress as we wish, freedom to live in society or away from it as a hermit.  I sometimes wonder if any woman on Earth really knows what true freedom is.  Perhaps we have not identified it in terms like “the cosmic wound” because we don’t know what it is like to not be wounded.

Stories do exist that talk about women’s loss of freedom, especially those of mermaids or selkies/silkies who are forced to marry and live on land until they find some object, a pelt or bridle, that was stolen from them, leap back into the water and return to their lives of freedom in the sea.  Water frequently does represent our deepest selves, especially as women, and being forced to live away from the water, or that place where we have the freedom to be ourselves, does indeed cause profound despair. 

These are the stories that cause my heart and soul to ache.  When I think about what other women have expressed to me as their deepest wounds, this loss of freedom is what I hear.  I think of my grandmother who told me a story about her mother.  Her mother would say “Oh, Gladys, you’ll do wonders” when my grandmother would tell her mother her hopes and dreams.  Her mother was not encouraging her, but was rather saying “Don’t dream too high for you are sure to be disappointed.  You cannot do all that you wish.”  Eighty years after she was told that, the bitterness was still in my grandmother’s voice at the retelling. 

Women can also be a great source of healing and freedom for other women, however. The other stories my grandmother told me were of her mother’s not remarrying for decades after my grandmother’s father died and my great-grandmother, instead, making her own way in life as a seamstress.  Also, my grandmother told of how her mother supported her wish to go to college by moving near the college so my grandmother could attend.  In these stories, she showed my grandmother a freedom that my grandmother, and my other female relatives, in turn, taught me. 

Perhaps it is the task of this generation of women, and men, to name the wound and begin healing it before it is too late, before the Wasteland caused by all our wounds spreads to all of Earth.  What would our world be like if women had never lost their freedom that so many ancient civilizations seem to have offered women?  What would a world be like in which women, and men, were truly free to be the best, most caring and compassionate, creative, happy and joyful beings they can be?  May our wounds be our guide to healing ourselves, each other, and the Earth.
 

Today I made a mandala garden.  My son outgrew his swingset, so we got rid of it and I had a nice empty 10 x 13 enclosed space with a gigantic hemlock tree in one corner.  I cleared it out and started putting stuff in it – a lawn chair for reading, two metal café chairs, a bust of a Greek Goddess, a Chinese pillar, a little cement rabbit, a plastic owl, and two angels on sticks.  This was on one side of the space.  On the other was a little sculpture of tree branches and composting leaves.  I just randomly placed things from the house and other garden areas around the space.  Later, when the weather improves, I’ll decide what plants to put in.   When I finished, I realized I had made a mandala from my garden.  The space isn’t round, but it is full of things of symbolic value placed in the four directions and elsewhere in ways that spoke of my relationship to them.

Mostly the term “mandala garden” means a round garden with a specific design.  Other mandala gardens are very formal and meant to be symbolic and meant for meditative practice.  When I draw mandalas, I make a circle and then just start creating with lines, shapes and color and figure out what it all means later.  I have created my mandala garden the same way.  No one will mistake it for a formal garden or even one that is well-planned. 

I plan to continue to create my mandala garden over time – adding things that are meaningful, taking away what is no longer reflective of me, moving things as their importance in my life or relationship to one another changes.  When the weather is warm enough for me to sit in my mandala garden for any length of time, I will do that and contemplate what I have put in and why I placed it where I did.  Just as with my drawn mandalas, I will no doubt learn something about myself, where I’ve been, and where I’m going.  I’ll gain some new metaphors for my life.  However, unlike with the drawn mandalas, where I can only look at them from above, with my garden mandala, I can  participate from the perspective of being inside it (though, interestingly, my lawn chair, the symbol of my Self since that is where I will be sitting, is off to one corner, though under the big mama tree).

You can make a mandala garden anywhere – in a large new space, in a corner of an existing garden, even in a container if you want.   You can make one or as many as you want and remake them often.  You could even make this your Spring Equinox celebration if you are choosing to celebrate alone (or even if you are with friends!).
 

And now for a crafty interlude…

Spring is just starting to come to my part of the world here in New England and so it is time to celebrate Brigid.  Brigid (pronounced “Breed”) was the great Goddess of the Celts.  Her name means “Bright One” and she ruled gold-crafting, poetry, creativity, and healing and she was associated with spring.  She shares many characteristics with St. Bridget who is still honored in churches bearing her name all over the world.  Brigid was  venerated by nineteen priestesses, then St. Bridget by nineteen nuns, who have tended a perpetual sacred fire for millennia.  The fire was doused for a time, but is now lit and tended again.

One of the traditions of Brigid and St. Bridget is fashioning a “St. Bridget’s Cross,” traditionally made on St. Bridget’s Feast Day of February 1st but always a wonderful way to welcome in the spring.  This description of how to make a St. Bridget’s cross is much better than anything I could come up with, so I will just link it here.

Perhaps as you make your cross you will want to sing this song that was traditionally sung to St. Bridget.  You’ll have to make up your own melody.  “Brigid, excellent woman, sudden flame, may the bright, fiery sun take us to the lasting kingdom.”

Sources:

Monaghan, Patricia.  The New Books of Goddesses and Heroines.  St. Paul, MN: Llewellyn Publications, 2000.

Walker, Barbara G.  The Woman’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets. San Francisco, CA: HarperCollins, 1983.

Sometimes the spirit of women ancestors is as close as the songs our grandmothers taught us.  Last night I went to a performance of traditional Balkan music, including a women’s a capella choral group.  The group offered songs sung for centuries by Bulgarian women  in the towns and villages as they worked, celebrated marriages, accompanied dances and went about their daily lives. 

The music is both enlivening and haunting, evoking images of life from centuries ago through music that seems, at times, otherworldly because of its use of a “drone” (where some women sing a steady undertone, like a bagpipe), its sometimes dissonant harmonies, and its unusual rhythms and scales.  Even the vocal technique is unusual to our ears, but perfectly suited for being heard miles away, across mountains or farms.  Whatever the musical theory behind it, to hear twenty women singing loudly and joyfully in complex and magnificent harmony is a spiritual  experience.  To know that women are coming together again to bring this music of extraordinary ordinary women to us is empowering and hopeful.

This music has undergone somewhat of a renaissance in recent years and a number of performing groups have sprung up in the US and elsewhere.  They can be seen at folk festivals and concerts like the one I attended and many have CDs available.  One European group is called The Mystery of the Bulgarian Voices.  A US group whose website has some audio clips is Kitka.  For a longer list of US groups, go the Mary Sherhart’s site. 

The culture of that region is extremely ancient, with folk art echoing the symbols and stories of women from millennia ago.  While the music has most likely evolved over the centuries, it is still  is exciting to think that perhaps captured within those harmonies and lyrics are the voices of ancient women telling us about their lives.

Laughter can sometimes seem like flashes of sunlight off a river, a pane of glass, a crystal in a stone – all around me, but uncatchable, not for me.  When my days are too full and my mind is taut and my spirit weary, laughter can seem like a luxury that I do not have time for.  When I am sad or grieving, laughter can seem to be mocking me. 

Women are so often the victims of others’ laughter from the youngest age that laughter can seem like a weapon, something whose sightline we eventually escape when we are old enough to fend off the ridicule and shame with hard work and our self respect.  Our sense of responsibility for taking care of those in our family and friend circles, whether that means daily caregiving or preserving the Earth for all future generations, can make our days so heavy that the light of laughter cannot penetrate.  As recently as ten years ago, I used to be known for my infectious laughter, but each day it has become rarer and rarer.

But, in my memories of how I used to laugh, I remember that laughter is not a glimmer, but the sun’s fire itself.  It illuminates, warms, brings life.  Real laughter does not make fun of others or ourselves or present a picture of life that is gloomier than what we see.  Real laughter is silly and comes from what happens to us everyday and shows us ourselves and others with love.  Laughing at ourselves takes away the burden to be more than human.  Real laughter is a sacred gift that is as important to our spiritual journey as meditation or prayer or celebrations.

I remember that:

Real laughter is revolutionary.  Laughter breaks apart our illusions about the world and ourselves, the attitudes, assumptions, and fears.  When we laugh, our minds open to the world as if it were new and we can see what we did not before.  

Real laughter heals.  No matter what is wrong, it can be put in its place by laughter.  Laughter reminds us that we have laughed before and we will laugh again, even in our saddest moments.  Laughter takes us out of our moment of despair into an expanded world.

Real laughter binds us to one another by creating a moment that belongs to only you and the person with whom you are laughing; it creates an entire way of looking at the world that only you and the other person share.  Laughter signals that you understand one another and that the world is a good place to be.  Women’s laughter is intimate.

It is time that we reclaimed that kind of laughter, that we invite it into our lives, our speeches, our articles, our poetry, our stories, our celebrations, and our homes.  When we laugh together, we are invincible as we face either for our own challenges or help others.

Today I pledge to:

At least consider taking myself less seriously next time I am faced with a tough situation.

Try to quote Monty Python at least twice a day.

When I think about the sacred in my home and life, always remember laughter.

Laugh really hard when my son tells me something funny that happened to him, even if I don’t get it.

Make at least one close friend in emotional pain laugh this week.

Go to the library and take out a funny book to read (has Fannie Flagg written anything new this year?)

What about you?